Hope you and yours are having a joyous holiday season. I am always grateful for the respite that the holiday season brings. It's a time to relax and enjoy your loved ones. With that said, Christmas is officially over, the holidays as a whole are coming to a close. We are now entering the final phase: New Years. Unlike Christmas were the average person dwells on past traditions and making memories, New Years is about looking forward and planning for a prosperous future. Like so many, I can't help but think about all the amazing things I want for myself and my loved ones in the year to come. I want to wishfully think beautiful things into our future. Unfortunately, that's not how life works. A steadfast path filled with hard work, dedication, and commitment is truly the only way to make your dreams come true. The occasional dose of luck can impact the outcome, but other than that your personal ability to push yourself is the solitary way to meet to your desired goals.
Of course, I am making my list of New Year's Resolutions, who isn't, but this year I wanted to approach it differently. I want to actually reflect on the year I have recently experienced; I truly want to examine the good, the bad, and the ugly. From there, I want to assess the lessons I have learned and plan for 2019 accordingly. I find that this tough, yet necessary approach not only forces me to be honest about the amount of growth whether personal or otherwise I have truly made, but it also helps me make realistic, attainable goals/plans for my future. Today, as my first Journal entry on Nia's Corner I want to share my 2018 lessons and 2019 resolutions with you all.
2018 was filled with so many teachable moments. I actively tried to learn from each notable experience I had this year and in 361 days I have had to actively learn a lot. However, the biggest lessons of 2018 were: be fearless and let go, let God. Both lessons allowed me to learn so many things. Like how to be more social, or how to forgive myself for past mistakes, or how to experience and growth through failure. I wouldn't have been able to learn those smaller, yet valuable lessons if I hadn't learned to be fearless and to ‘Let Go, Let God'.
For me, being fearless doesn't mean to be reckless or careless it means to be okay with stepping outside of your box, experience new things, speaking up and be creative. ‘Let Go, Let God' means to be okay with not being able to control the outcome; I know as long as I put my best foot forward and I always present the best way I know how the outcome will be exactly as it was meant to be. At the core of it, this phrase truly means that no matter how things end up, that was exactly how they are supposed to.
As I stated above those two lessons work hand in hand for me. If I didn't learn to be fearless, I would have never learned how to be okay with the outcome; I would have never learned that it's okay to fail or fall a bit short. In other words, as Aaliyah so beautifully sang, "If at first you don't succeed, pick yourself up and try again."
As I continue to move through life, I am going to take these lessons with me and apply them to every year, every season, every experience. In 2019 my main goal is to continue my 2018 lessons; to use those lessons to fuel the goals I have for myself.
With aaaaalllllllll that said—my 2019 resolutions are (in addition to being fearless and ‘Let Go, Let God'):
Hopefully this coming year I will achieve all those things and so much more. I prophesy that 2019 will be riddled with positive, beautiful, and inspirational moments. I am excited for a fresh start and a glorious year. Happy Holidays everyone!
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Today I want to share an affirmation that has recently helped me. Feel free to post comments or send me emails in response to this post. I actually really encourage those replies; it gives me a different point of view to explore.
Anyhow, the thought I had was about how uncomfortable trying to pursue a large goal (or any goal for that matter) can be, therefore that pursuit can seem like a daunting task. I began to think about all the times when the pursuit of my goals and happiness seemed too hard of a path to follow. I thought about all the ways I could overcome such negative thought processes about the journey to obtaining my goals. I asked a friend how they motivate themselves to push forward; she said she uses affirmations as a way to remind her of her goals and boost her confidence in her ability to go forward. I thought it was a fantastic idea and I began to scour the internet for possible phrases or examples to use to reenergize my confidence in my abilities. The first two phrases I came across seemed incomplete; those phrases were 'The Pursuit of Happiness' and "Carpe Diem, Seize the Day'. I felt like the phrase 'The Pursuit of Happiness' only talked about going after your happiness not how to deal with the daily hardships that happen on that journey. As for the phrase 'Carpe Diem, Seize the Day' I felt like that only talked about that day, not the overall goal/journey. Once I analyzed those phrases I had the idea to put them together for a more complete phrase. I came up with less of a phrase and more of a question: How can I seize my day while in the pursuit of my happiness? Basically, I am asking myself how can I use today to get a little closer to my goal/happiness. This thought process has been helping me to come to terms with where I am now and keep me motivated to continue to become better.
I have a sticky note in my bathroom with this question on it and everyday since I thought about it I ask myself how I would answer it that day. I usually give myself small, achievable goals for the day and I review my goals and achievements from the day before. I then celebrate those achievements, thus bring myself a small bit of confidence that in turn makes me feel happy. These small actions help me stay happy, positive, and motivated while on my journey to my ultimate happiness.
I encourage you all to try using this question or make up your own. Everyone needs something to provide that support while achieving a goal. If you like, share your questions and/or phrases with myself and the other readers. I would love to know what you all feel keeps you motivated. If you would like to share it privately, you can always shoot me an email. You can find my email address in the contact tab which is located in the menu section above.
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